Vertex’s Guide To Creating Attraction (VI)

Method six– Invasion of personal space. Traditional social dynamics literature will tell you that respecting another persons personal space is very important to avoid conflict and create rapport. This is mostly true, however in pickup, flaunting this “rule” can be extremely effective in creating attraction. The main reasons why this works as a technique are (i) You show that you have the sexual confidence to escalate. Most guys are afraid of screwing this up and losing the girl, and women can sense this. If you are different, in that you invade their personal space in a dominant and congruent way, it shows that you are not like most men and have more sexual confidence. Displays like this send a very clear signal to her that you are the kind of man that can take her to bed and show her a good time, something that is lacking in most men. It shows you are an alpha male and that when you see something you like, you go for it.(ii) It shows that you are investing in the interaction and are not afraid to put your balls on the line.

Again, you are not behaving in a wishy washy way and are clearly telegraphing your interest to the girl in a direct and powerful way. Ironically, you are less likely to receive a negative reaction if you act in this way than if you pussyfoot around and are scared to screw up or scare her away.So how do you do it?Firstly, when talking, use the techniques above. When you get one IOI, move straight in. Get closer to her. Kino lightly, start off by putting your hand on her arm and whisper in her ear. Immediately drop any cocky techniques and get serious with her, by delivering a powerful statement about how you like her..“In all seriousness, we’re messing around but…I gotta say I like you because of X Y Z quality (pick out a quality that’s unique to her – DON’T JUST SAY NICE TITS. Try and think of something unique).Now you’re having a real interaction! Sexual interest is there, it’s established, you’re on. Now it’s time to focus on building and escalating to an f close, this will be covered in later chapters. Or, you can get a number close and if you reach this point, you can be 90% sure the number will not flake if you use the techniques as directed.

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Vertex’s Guide To Creating Attraction (V)

Method five – tell her what you want / shock tactics. This technique is very powerful, and can literally transform the dynamic of an interaction with 1 clear sentence. It sends a very direct signal to her that you are interested and that you want her ;delivered at the right time it’s a devastating technique and can instantly transform an interaction and set the tone to whatever you want.When in a conversation, you can bust out these kind of powerful statements but they have to be used at the right time. Use the conversational pauses, look directly at her and then deliver the statements. You can start off with the tamer ones and move up the ladder to the more powerful ones :

(i) When was the last time you got really drunk? (Gets rapport and sets tone for day 2 meeting, gets personal)

(ii) Those earrings (or X Y Z adornment) really say a lot about you (playful and slightly ironic)…What do they say?? Curious arnet you..They tell me that (go into cold read). (Gets personal, instant DHV and shows you are paying attention, creates attraction, sets dating / sexual frame)

(iii) There’s something about a girl like you that’s very sexy. I think it’s….the combination of x quality and y quality. We’d be good together, imagine what our kids would look like (humourous) As long as they got my looks, it would be cool anyway (Immediatley sets tone for dating frame, gets her thinking of you in a bf / gf way, funny)

(iv) This is getting boring – when was the last time you got fucked properly? (WHAM!! Very powerful, can be used to create massive sexual tension, gets her thinking of sex WITH YOU, in a very powerful direct way)

You have to consider the effect that you want to achieve in order to evaluate the best time to use these statements. In the above four examples, you might use (iii) immediately after receiving an IOI, whilst invading her personal space.You might use (iv) on a day 2, in a natural pause in the conversation, after sexual tension has been created but before you have kissed. Especially effective if you are talking about boring subjects that neither of you are interested in, as conversation fillers, especially if she is the nervous type.You must use your judgement about when to use these statements. You can practice by writing out some simple, declarative, powerful statements that you want to achieve a particular effect, then bringing them out at particular points in the interaction.

Vertex’s Guide To Creating Attraction (IV)

Method four – Raise your standards. As a general principle, whenever you’re in conversation with a girl, you need to keep 1 principle in mind : know your standards and stick to them. Write them down if you have to! What do you want in a girl? What qualities are an absolute MUST (try to be more specific than 32DD breasts!). When you’re talking, is she displaying qualities that you don’t like? Has she said something that on some level pisses you off? Then SHOW IT!!This sounds obvious but it’s surprising how many guys will try to hide their distaste in the hopes of getting into a girls knickers. In truth the opposite is true : if you show you’re a man with standards and will call her on shoddy behaviour, then you’re much more likely to gain attraction. Here is the key : it’s how you show disdain that matters. DON’T get into a prolonged logical debate about her behaviour or what she has said. Use your body and a quick word to convey distaste. Turn away from her a little if she genuinely pisses you off. It’s not necessary to tell her off, just say “I see” as you backturn, or even “that’s a little weird”…Then fall silent. You’ll find that if she’s attracted, she’ll claw at you and try to explain her position or apologise. This is a great opportunity to be won over (if you agree with what she’s saying) and gain control of the frame.

Vertex’s Guide To Creating Attraction (III)

Method three – pregnant pauses and sexual innuendo. When you’re confident, showing prolonged eye contact and using sexual humour, you can also use pauses and sexual innuendo. These techniques can be applied at any point during the pickup.Here is an example, this is an actual transcript taken from a 2 minute number close, which lead to an f close on a day 2.
PUA : You look just like the cat that got the cream…(PAUSE, looking at her in smiling way, but with sexual intent)…See any interesting guys in here (INNUENDO)
HB : Not really, it’s a bad night..Except you (attraction gained within 2 seconds)
PUA : (Ironic smile) – I see..You’re very forward arne’t you? (Get closer). A bit of a naughty girl infact (Sexual humour). Do you know what happens to naughty girls (Innuendo)
HB : I couldn’t guess (fake innocence)
PUA : (Grabbing her bum). They get their arses smacked, of course. But you’d like that (sexual humour)
PUA : Where you from??In the above example we have all of the techniques being used simultaneously, which allowed me to get a solid number close and arrange to meet her for a day 2. It was necessary to build up some comfort on text in order to solidify a day 2 but using these techniques you can get solid numbers very quickly as very very few guys out there are making this kind of impression so quickly.

Vertex’s Guide To Creating Attraction (II)

Method two – prolonged eye contact. This technique is most useful throughout the pickup. Generally you should aim to keep eye contact as long as possible but NOT IN A THREATING WAY! When in conversation with a girl, try and hold her eyes and smile at appropriate points. Don’t stare! You know you’re staring if she starts to say “what…” and appears to think something is wrong with her.When holding eye contact, you can create attraction spikes by thinking of her in a sexual way and appreciating her beauty. However, be careful NOT to appear sleazy, as there is a world of difference between a sexual man and a sleazy one. A sexual man has an honest appreciation for beauty and gets pleasure from it, whereas a sleazy guy has a running porno video in his mind and views women as a sex object. To practice this skill, try to keep holding eye contact in every interaction with a woman. Don’t look away and notice their reactions. If they appear uncomfortable, keep practicing and try to smile more, in a genuine and sexually interested way. As you practice this, you can let her in on the fact that you find her attractive and play with fake coyness, women can and WILL pick up on this and it becomes a sort of game, as every comment you make can become pregnant with sexual undertones.To practice this, try and focus on something that you find physically attractive about her and gain pleasure from it and SHOW IT to the girl. Use the powerful statements in method five to enhance the effect.

Vertex’s Guide To Creating Attraction

Here is my guide to creating attraction. There is a bunch of other stuff that I do that I am trying to quantify and break down, this is a good start though. You’ll have to wait….

Creating attraction

There are numerous ways in which you can create attraction. The following are some of the best, most powerful ways :

Method one – Conversational jujitsu. Using this method you pretend not to hear what she is saying and misinterpret it in a sexual way, as in the following example :PUA : Hey can you tell me where the nearest hairdressers is?Her : Oh yeah, it’s just up there, turn left at the bank. PUA : OK , just up there…PAUSE..Did you say you wanted to watch me wank? I’ve only just met you, my god you are forward…This is a rather extreme, however it’s useful because it illustrates the technique. Using this kind of sexual misinterpretation is great because :

(i) You can use it at ANY point in the conversation e.g after opening, rapport stage etc etc.

(ii) It shows great confidence, and if delivered correctly is very funny – 2 ideal ingredients you want to demonstrate to a girl.

(iii) It immediately cuts through the bullshit and sets the tone of the conversation as sexual. Remember, a degree of sexual tension is a MUST in interacting with girls. We all have boring, anodyne conversations all day long : this is different and makes you stand out.

(iv) It shows you are sexually confident and direct. Again this is unusual and attractive. Ask as many attractive women as you can if they would appreciate being approached by an attractive guy who is direct and humourous.This technique is a way of creating sexual tension and quickly changing the nature of the interaction and getting you talking as a man and woman who may be interested in sex. Use it sparingly as overuse will reduce it’s effectiveness. It’s difficult to put an exact figure on how many times you should do this but in a 3 minute number close in the daytime, once should be enough. Try and use it directly after the opener as it’s a great way of flipping the attraction switches.

Another conversational method is to use ANY hook to turn the conversation onto a sexual / dating plane. You can use literally ANYTHING to do this, as with the example below :

PUA : So where you from?
HB : I’m from Latvia
PUA : Latvia – oh yeah, cool. I heard about that place…I read an article about it actually. Yeah, it said that the girls from Latvia are all super hot…(IRONICALLY) – I couldn’t comment , of course…PAUSE…And it also said they all seem to have a special interest in (describe yourself) e.g 5”6 guys who wear brown courdroy pants and pink socks and matching pink underwear. PAUSE…How strange. Are you aware of this phenomenon?Your lucky day eh?

Again, use this sparingly as you do not want to appear to be a clown by using too much humour. This method is best used shortly after the opener.

Cool guys

So what is it that separates the "cool" guys from the "uncool" guys? What is "cool"?
What is it that makes a few rare people the kind of people that EVERYONE wants to be around?
What is it about UN-cool guys that repels other people, and makes women run away?
And what is it about this element that I'm calling "cool" that makes guys who have it attract more women than they can handle?

THE DEFINITION OF COOL
I personally think that being "cool" comes down to:

1) Being independent
2) Being indifferent
3) Being funny
4) Being socially adjusted

Before I get into each of these in detail, I want to mention something... Usually, I tend to stick to techniques to help you meet more women, or give you advice to get past limiting beliefs, etc.

I've realized recently that there are a few BASIC, FUNDAMENTAL things that we, as guys, need to really "get" about interacting with other people before we start trying to learn advanced stuff, like how to approach and meet women. If you don't have some of the basic things handled, all the fancy techniques in the world won't fix your problem.

So stick with me here, this is important.
OK, so let's talk about the four components that I mentioned above.

BEING INDEPENDENT

Independent is the OPPOSITE of "dependent".

When you act "dependent", you lean on others, you look to them for approval, you ask what they think before you make a decision, you tend to want to stay physically close to them, and your feelings tend to depend on what others feel and think of you.

When you act INDEPENDENT, you lean back, you do things because YOU decided you wanted to, you don't ask others what they think - instead you decide yourself, you are fine walking away from your friends for awhile when you're out, and your feelings are controlled by what YOU think, not what others think.

A "dependent" person will go into a bar with friends, stick close to them all night, ask what
everyone else is drinking before they order, get upset easily about things that others say, and
constantly be looking for attention and approval in some way.

An INDEPENDENT person, on the other hand, will go into a bar with friends and be more likely to... walk away and look around the place ALONE to see who's there - and feel fine about leaving their friends for awhile and striking up a conversation with a stranger... They'll order a drink if they want, or water if they want - and not care what everyone else is drinking... They'll be cool and calm no matter what happens - even if others are getting upset around them... And, most importantly, they aren't looking to others for attention and approval. They're doing their own thing, and enjoying whatever happens.

BEING INDIFFERENT

Most people in this world are ATTACHED to the outcomes of things. They're constantly worrying about what's going to happen... and talking about the future in a fearful, uncertain way.

This type of person always wants to know what other people think of them, and they're worrying about what they should do so other people will like them. Unfortunately, this almost ALWAYS comes across as INSECURITY.

An INDIFFERENT person, on the other hand, just goes about life and takes things as they come.

The indifferent person is INDIFFERENT to the outcome of whatever situation they're in.

If it's a man, and he's approaching a woman, he will be OK with whatever happens. If she's nice to him, great. If she's uptight, no problem. If she's rich, famous, and beautiful... and starts coming on to him, fine. No big deal.

When you are ATTACHED to the outcome of a situation, it makes you act all kinds of freaky.
You pause, act nervous, hold back, look for approval, act insecure... and any of 100 other unattractive things.

On the other hand, when you're INDIFFERENT to the outcome, it makes you MAGNETIC. Especially when it comes to women and dating. Indifference is the ultimate way to show a LACK of insecurity in life.

BEING FUNNY

Humor is magic.
It's a complete mystery why we find things "funny" and why we "laugh".

Crying because someone died makes some logical sense. It's a bad thing, and crying expresses a negative emotion.
But when you see a dog run into a window because he doesn't see it... and he gets a confused look on his face, you LAUGH. What's with that?

Humor is interesting to me, in that if you're funny, it makes people FEEL GOOD inside. They laugh, and it triggers positive feelings. If you're not naturally funny, it's a great skill to learn. Read books. Watch live comedy. Do
whatever it takes to learn how to be funny. Most of the "coolest" guys I know are wickedly funny. Some of them are only funny on occasion... but they "get it"... and when they do make a joke, it's DAMN funny.

BEING SOCIALLY ADJUSTED

I know that this sounds funny, but most of the people I know who are "UN-cool" are not very adjusted socially.

They lack a certain something in the "social skills" department that makes it OBVIOUS to others (and especially to women) that they don't know how to relate very well to other people. They just never learned how to make others feel comfortable around them.

If you've ever known an accountant or computer programmer that was brilliantly smart, but totally boring, you know what I mean. If people act kind of nervous, strange, and uncomfortable when they're around you, then you
also know where I'm coming from on this. I can't teach you how to make people feel comfortable around you in two sentences, but if you need to learn how to mix with people socially, then start PAYING ATTENTION to what's going on around you.

Watch how others dress, carry themselves, walk, and talk. Pay attention to little details... like saying, "What's up?" when you meet someone new, instead of "Hello, pleased to meet you" and such.

...now, is this all there is to being "cool"?

Of course not. But it's a great start.

If you can first get yourself to the place where other people want to be around you just because they enjoy your company, you'll find that taking things to the next level with women will be about 10 times easier.

I've had this conversation with MANY of the guys I know who are successful with women, and they all basically say the same thing... you have to learn how to be "cool" and make others (women) feel comfortable just being in the same room with you. And if you're "cool", this happens almost instantly. If you're not "cool", then you're going to have a hard time making ANYONE feel comfortable with you... never mind having a woman feel ATTRACTION for you.

Now, I also realized that a lot of the materials that I teach in my eBook and Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD Program are aimed at this EXACT topic.

Even though I don't talk very much about this concept (I will in the future, though), you'll notice that many of the techniques you'll learn from my materials will help you in a lot of areas of your life... not just with women.

As a direct result of the things I've learned about how to be more successful with women and dating, I've ALSO become more successful at things like being invited to "exclusive" parties, having famous and successful people pursue me as a friend, and just generally being invited into more "exclusive" social circles.

Why is this?

Well, for one thing, people who know a lot of "cool" or influential people are very careful about who they "bring along" to gatherings with friends.

The LAST thing someone "cool" needs in their life is an "UN-cool" person making a jackass of themselves in front of all of their friends.

When you learn the art of being "cool", you start to attract other cool people. And those people will see that you're not insecure, emotionally unstable, clingy, and such. They'll see that you know how to handle yourself with other people (and with women), and they'll start introducing you to other cool people (including women) instead of running away from you.

I know that this newsletter is going to ignite a whole series of letters to me about how learning these concepts has done exactly what I'm talking about for various guys (and I want to hear about it, by the way, so make sure you write in).

So, want more great ideas on how to be "cool", and how to meet and date more women? I thought so...

It took me a long time to figure out how to be "cool" around women... and how to make women feel that powerful physical and emotional response called ATTRACTION... I can't tell you how much I wish I could have known what I teach when I was younger. It's taken me literally YEARS to put all the pieces together, and I invite you to take advantage of the time, effort, energy, and money I've invested to discover, refine, and organize all of the step-by-step techniques I've put together...

I mentioned my Advanced Dating Techniques program earlier. If you go through that program and find that you need to work on your "Inner Game", then I recommend that you invest in my fantastic Inner Game programs. Start with my program, "On Being A Man... Who Naturally Attracts Women".

Bodylanguage Workbook

Body Language vs. Words
􀂃 According to Albert Mehrabian, in his Psychology Today article, of a total message:
− 7% is conveyed by the words
− 38% by the voice tones
− 55% by facial and body expression

El objetivo es la atraccion...
- Comunicar "todas las cosas correctas" sobre tu INNER SELF. (tu YO INTERNO)
- Como podes comunicar independencia con tu lenguaje corporal?
- Usarlo en toda situacion social, no solo con mujeres?
- El High Status social esta conectado con la atraccion


Projecting Self-Image and Beliefs Through Body Language
􀂃 It's important to see yourself as a man who is successful with women
􀂃 It's important to see yourself as a man who is confident around women
􀂃 It's important that you like yourself
􀂃 It's important that you're selective and don't give attractive women "special treatment" or preference, because of their beauty

Honest signals
􀂃 Your body language is very possibly your most important "signaling mechanism" to women… and it tells them everything they think they need to know

Some Honest Signals to Practice/Mentally Rehearse
􀂃 Strong, secure eye contact
􀂃 Dominant, confident posture and walk
􀂃 Slower-than-usual movements and gestures
􀂃 Unself-conscious demeanor
􀂃 Knowing the "sequence" of human mating steps (what are they?)
􀂃 The ULTIMATE Honest Signal: The Sexual Threat…

Rapport
􀂃 When it comes to attraction, traditional rapport concepts often mislead guys into thinking that if they act like the girl is acting, she'll feel more attracted to them
􀂃 This often causes bad thinking… and leads to guys trying to get a woman's approval by "being like her"
􀂃 Much better to understand rapport so you can know when SHE is trying to get it with YOU
􀂃 If she's showing signs of rapport: for example, mirroring, synchronizing her body with yours, touching you, laughing with you, then you are on the right track

Part of Body Language Is Grooming and Dress

Let Her Orient Herself to You
􀂃 If you watch most men as they interact with attractive women, they're obviously "orienting" their body language to follow the woman's body language.
􀂃 The men I know who are the best with women do exactly the opposite.
􀂃 Instead of following the woman's body language, they 'stay strong' and LEAD.
􀂃 They let the WOMAN follow their body language; not the other way around

100% Composure

Eye Communication
􀂃 Eye contact
􀂃 Don't break eye contact first
􀂃 Notice her pupils
􀂃 When she smiles, are her EYES smiling?

Eye Contact
􀂃 Holding her gaze a 'little too long'.
􀂃 Is she trying to make eye contact with you as you talk to her? Or are YOU trying?
􀂃 Reading her pupil dilation.

Self-Consciousness
􀂃 She'll become more self-conscious and insecure, the more attracted she is.
􀂃 She'll seek your approval with her body and eyes.
􀂃 She'll seek your attention.
􀂃 She'll be clearly emotionally connected to your accepting/rejecting of her approval seeking.

Posture
􀂃 Erect/slumped posture.
􀂃 She'll sit erect, arch her back, and push her chest out when interested.

Meeting
􀂃 Eye contact.
􀂃 First words, voice tone.
􀂃 Shaking hands... shake a few times, comment, etc.
􀂃 Meeting body language.

Using Body Language to Signal 'Play Time'
􀂃 Pushing her with your arm or body while walking.
􀂃 Bumping her with your hip or butt.
􀂃 Poking her ribs.
􀂃 Squeezing her knee.
􀂃 Watch what she's DOING and how she's responding with her body... don't pay so much attention to what she's SAYING.


Physical Protecting
􀂃 Walking on the outside of the curb.
􀂃 Opening the door and guiding her in gently.
􀂃 Arm around her, holding her close.
􀂃 Walking between her and any potential threats.

Physical Leading
􀂃 Taking her hand when leaving together.
􀂃 Pulling her toward you.
􀂃 Moving her where you want her to be (cuddling, sex, etc.).

Stop:
􀂃 Darting eyes.
􀂃 Fidgeting.
􀂃 Stumbling over words.
􀂃 Tentative gestures.
􀂃 Nervous habits.
􀂃 Staring at the floor.

Body Language Keys to Communicate
􀂃 Comfort.
􀂃 Dominance.
􀂃 Security.
􀂃 Status.
􀂃 Indifference.
􀂃 Confidence.
􀂃 Control.
􀂃 Sexual Awareness.
􀂃 Territorial nature.
􀂃 Humor and fun.

Using Body Language to Create Attraction
Important Insights

􀂃 Having good body language will affect you psychologically – it aligns your body and your mind, and subconsciously gives you a surge of masculine power that all women notice.

Body Language Mistakes That Send Women Running
􀂃 Eliminate BAD body language
􀂃 "Leaning in"
􀂃 Stiffness
􀂃 Hunchback
􀂃 Weak handshake
􀂃 Cracking knuckles
􀂃 Moving your mouth/licking your lips
􀂃 Too much eye contact/too little eye contact
􀂃 Watching instead of doing signals, self-consciousness and lack of leadership
􀂃 "Wall flowering"

Body Language That Forces Women to Notice You
􀂃 Laughing and having a great time no matter who you're with
􀂃 Head up
􀂃 Facial expressions
􀂃 Lift the chest
􀂃 Take up space
􀂃 Legs slightly more than shoulder-width apart
􀂃 Hands in front or back pockets, at sides or arms crossed
􀂃 Walk with a purpose

Eye Contact
􀂃 Accentuate eye contact by pointing – awesome opener: "Was that a dirty look?"
􀂃 Eye contact from afar with girls you already know (VERY USEFUL for amplifying attraction!)
􀂃 Nod
􀂃 Wink
􀂃 Hide your face
􀂃 Show skin

Use Body Language to Supercharge Your Approaches
􀂃 Dr. Paul's theory of "Threes" - eye contact, voice and motion - all command attention and are more powerful than words alone.
􀂃 Examples:
− Hi five or "cheers"
− Street approach
− Raise your arm and motion them over
− When talking to a group of women, point to each of them individually to hold the attention of the entire group.
My Philosophy on Reading Women's Body Language is… DON'T WORRY AB OUT IT!
Focus On Creating Attraction
Instead Of "Looking For" Attraction

Demonstrations
􀂃 Men and women position their bodies differently when they communicate – make them earn your attention!
􀂃 Close the distance – Staring contest
􀂃 Arm around
􀂃 Holding hands
􀂃 Sitting at the bar
􀂃 Sit on your lap
􀂃 Tickling