Body Language vs. Words
According to Albert Mehrabian, in his Psychology Today article, of a total message:
− 7% is conveyed by the words
− 38% by the voice tones
− 55% by facial and body expression
El objetivo es la atraccion...
- Comunicar "todas las cosas correctas" sobre tu INNER SELF. (tu YO INTERNO)
- Como podes comunicar independencia con tu lenguaje corporal?
- Usarlo en toda situacion social, no solo con mujeres?
- El High Status social esta conectado con la atraccion
Projecting Self-Image and Beliefs Through Body Language
It's important to see yourself as a man who is successful with women
It's important to see yourself as a man who is confident around women
It's important that you like yourself
It's important that you're selective and don't give attractive women "special treatment" or preference, because of their beauty
Honest signals
Your body language is very possibly your most important "signaling mechanism" to women… and it tells them everything they think they need to know
Some Honest Signals to Practice/Mentally Rehearse
Strong, secure eye contact
Dominant, confident posture and walk
Slower-than-usual movements and gestures
Unself-conscious demeanor
Knowing the "sequence" of human mating steps (what are they?)
The ULTIMATE Honest Signal: The Sexual Threat…
Rapport
When it comes to attraction, traditional rapport concepts often mislead guys into thinking that if they act like the girl is acting, she'll feel more attracted to them
This often causes bad thinking… and leads to guys trying to get a woman's approval by "being like her"
Much better to understand rapport so you can know when SHE is trying to get it with YOU
If she's showing signs of rapport: for example, mirroring, synchronizing her body with yours, touching you, laughing with you, then you are on the right track
Part of Body Language Is Grooming and Dress
Let Her Orient Herself to You
If you watch most men as they interact with attractive women, they're obviously "orienting" their body language to follow the woman's body language.
The men I know who are the best with women do exactly the opposite.
Instead of following the woman's body language, they 'stay strong' and LEAD.
They let the WOMAN follow their body language; not the other way around
100% Composure
Eye Communication
Eye contact
Don't break eye contact first
Notice her pupils
When she smiles, are her EYES smiling?
Eye Contact
Holding her gaze a 'little too long'.
Is she trying to make eye contact with you as you talk to her? Or are YOU trying?
Reading her pupil dilation.
Self-Consciousness
She'll become more self-conscious and insecure, the more attracted she is.
She'll seek your approval with her body and eyes.
She'll seek your attention.
She'll be clearly emotionally connected to your accepting/rejecting of her approval seeking.
Posture
Erect/slumped posture.
She'll sit erect, arch her back, and push her chest out when interested.
Meeting
Eye contact.
First words, voice tone.
Shaking hands... shake a few times, comment, etc.
Meeting body language.
Using Body Language to Signal 'Play Time'
Pushing her with your arm or body while walking.
Bumping her with your hip or butt.
Poking her ribs.
Squeezing her knee.
Watch what she's DOING and how she's responding with her body... don't pay so much attention to what she's SAYING.
Physical Protecting
Walking on the outside of the curb.
Opening the door and guiding her in gently.
Arm around her, holding her close.
Walking between her and any potential threats.
Physical Leading
Taking her hand when leaving together.
Pulling her toward you.
Moving her where you want her to be (cuddling, sex, etc.).
Stop:
Darting eyes.
Fidgeting.
Stumbling over words.
Tentative gestures.
Nervous habits.
Staring at the floor.
Body Language Keys to Communicate
Comfort.
Dominance.
Security.
Status.
Indifference.
Confidence.
Control.
Sexual Awareness.
Territorial nature.
Humor and fun.
Using Body Language to Create Attraction
Important Insights
Having good body language will affect you psychologically – it aligns your body and your mind, and subconsciously gives you a surge of masculine power that all women notice.
Body Language Mistakes That Send Women Running
Eliminate BAD body language
"Leaning in"
Stiffness
Hunchback
Weak handshake
Cracking knuckles
Moving your mouth/licking your lips
Too much eye contact/too little eye contact
Watching instead of doing signals, self-consciousness and lack of leadership
"Wall flowering"
Body Language That Forces Women to Notice You
Laughing and having a great time no matter who you're with
Head up
Facial expressions
Lift the chest
Take up space
Legs slightly more than shoulder-width apart
Hands in front or back pockets, at sides or arms crossed
Walk with a purpose
Eye Contact
Accentuate eye contact by pointing – awesome opener: "Was that a dirty look?"
Eye contact from afar with girls you already know (VERY USEFUL for amplifying attraction!)
Nod
Wink
Hide your face
Show skin
Use Body Language to Supercharge Your Approaches
Dr. Paul's theory of "Threes" - eye contact, voice and motion - all command attention and are more powerful than words alone.
Examples:
− Hi five or "cheers"
− Street approach
− Raise your arm and motion them over
− When talking to a group of women, point to each of them individually to hold the attention of the entire group.
My Philosophy on Reading Women's Body Language is… DON'T WORRY AB OUT IT!
Focus On Creating Attraction
Instead Of "Looking For" Attraction
Demonstrations
Men and women position their bodies differently when they communicate – make them earn your attention!
Close the distance – Staring contest
Arm around
Holding hands
Sitting at the bar
Sit on your lap
Tickling